Anger is an emotion common to everyone. It is something we’ve been experiencing since the dawn of humankind. Because it is something we all share, our perspective of it continues to shift in the wrong direction. We tend to accept that being angry is normal. But it is not. It is a strong sign of a complete lack of self-awareness and control.
Anger isn’t something we should take for granted and live with it.
- Anger isn’t a feeling out of our control.
- It is not normal to be angry.
- It is not a sign of strength to be angry at something.
- You are not doing the thing you are doing better out of anger. You are actually performing worse when you are under emotion.
Anger is an emotion that emerges when the world is not as we are expecting it to be. It is something we are fully in control of
How to deal with anger
The first step is to be aware when the emotions emerge. If you manage to stop at the very beginning, step 2 will be a lot easier. Seneca describes giving in to anger as throwing yourself off a cliff. When you have the first inklings, before you give in to anger, it’s possible to stop yourself. Once you throw yourself off the cliff, there isn’t much you can do about it.
Pause in the midst of it. Stop and observe yourself while angry. This is probably the hardest step. It’s almost as hard as to stop a steam engine train at full speed, but you need to do your best.
Easier said than done, I know. But start trying to follow steps 1 and 2. The more anger episodes you can control, the better your life will be.
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